I'm kind of at my wits end when it comes to the opposite sex. With another "crush" (or whatever one would prefer to call falling for someone who at best is oblivious, at worst feels the complete opposite) off to the happy land of relationships with another person, I can't help but feeling as though there is something wrong with me. And not the whole Clueless thing of "My hips are too big" either. 
It's like no matter how I try, I simply cannot even get a guy to be mildly attracted to me. The man whore who will want anything female? Yeah, they pretty much look over my head. The nice guys who claim to never win? Yeah, they live in their own world of self-pitying. The jocks? Psh, don't even get me started. They're almost synonymous with man whores. And the few good guys out there, the really, truly sweet ones? All. In. Relationships. And they're in those cute, sweet, makes you wanna vomit kind of relationships.
-Sigh- I know, I shouldn't determine my worth in terms of boys. I should think of friends, family, and work, etc, etc. But I mean come on. I know I would make a pretty good girlfriend. I've seen enough relationships to know what NOT to do. I don't require a lot of attention; I know I wouldn't get jealous or clingy, and I know I'm not a prude. I know Prince Charming will come and I must be patient. But it's kind of hard when the mistake guys aren't even there to occupy the time either.
Tuesday, January 5, 2010
just once, once would be nice
Do feel free to skip this post. Minor, self-pitying rant about to ensue.
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Sweetie, I was like you when I was younger. I was wondering why guys are not attracted to me. But you know what, great things come to those who wait. And another you know what, the girls who were so attractive back then, they can be mistaken as my my mom now. They deteriorated, I don't know why. But me, I aged gracefully. Hahaha!
ReplyDeleteOh dearie, I really feel for you, I do. It is hard when it seems there are not even frogs to kiss. But just look at it this way, you can now skip all the frogs and fall straight into Prince Charming's arms. I wished I could have skipped all the frogs in my life.
ReplyDeleteI'm really sorry if these words doesn't bring much comfort to you now. All I can say is I think you are a beautiful person inside out and I truly hope you will find someone who will appreciate and cherish wholeheartedly the gem that you are:)
*sending big hugs your way*
Oh lovely! Not to worry! I never had a boyfriend till I went to college. I always thought what the heck?! Is there really something wrong with me?! But as soon as I hit college I realized that not concerning myself with boys in HS was just what I needed to be who I am now.
ReplyDeleteNow, I never rely on a man. I never define myself by my boyfriend because I went so long without one. After almost 20 years of being totally single you realize that you have so much more to offer. And all those girls in the "cute" relationships when they are 16 will forever define themselves by the men they date cuz that is all they know. They don't know how to make themselves happy.
And TRUST me when I say, good men like independent, self-reliant women. So when you find your prince, he will be the bomb.
holy....
ReplyDeleteyea, I definitely feel for you. But, who knows, maybe they're all right and we'll all be super boy magnets in a couple years.
Good Luck and remember you're really cool even w/o some arm candy.
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Hey sweetie, hang in there and you are totally entitled to let us know how you feel. I hope you find the right guy for you, I can understand that guys are very very frustrating sometime. It took me a while to find BK, I am sure you will find a good guy in the right timing. XO!
ReplyDeleteI am right where you are. I seem to be attracting all the crazy's and the guys that I like are either taken or oblivious! My last crush didn't have a CLUE, despite my obviousness. I'm sure we'll meet our princes in good time though.
ReplyDeleteOh darling I am the same way! I can totally empathize! You are lovely, remember that!
ReplyDeletexoxox,
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Aw I also feel the same sometimes.
ReplyDeleteJust remember that someone will come along and all your waiting will be worth it.
Gorgeous photos by the way :)
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No worries!! The right one will definitely come your way and before you know it, you will be in love and he will be crazy about you! I used to feel like that before and I waited a long time and met a few jearks along the way but once you find the one you're meant to be with, it's really worth it! Hang in there!! You will find him! xoxoxoxo
ReplyDeleteI can't agree more with clarewbrown. Quote everything she said.
ReplyDeleteIt's what ppl always say but it's true, he will arrive and you won't mind that you didn't kiss the frogs before...
I also hope you will find someone who will appreciate the beautiful person you are - inside and outside!
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I know you will meet someone who appreciates how wonderful you are.
ReplyDeleteBig hug honey
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marian
Too many people blame themselves when someone isn't physically attracted to them - it's not you! Boys in high school can be extremely immature (not saying that they get any better as they age); you'll find someone who is head over heels for you soon enough. Until then, have fun playing the field and looking for someone who completely catches your eye!! :)
ReplyDeleteAw, I definitely feel you on this one. Personally though, I try to just not think about it...you know, we're not "single girls" we're people. There's a world of life outside of relationships that I try to focus on...
ReplyDeleteaw i'm sure the perfect guy will come along very soon. whoever isn't looking your way now definitely doesn't deserve someone as wonderful as you!
ReplyDeleteEven if you don't believe it... every girl's been through it. It's easy to blame yourself, but in all honesty, guys are just mysteries when it comes to what they find initially attracitve, especially when they're younger where factors such as popularity are so important. Most boys care more about how they are perceived as opposed to what they really want. I had no luck with guys until college, because they just seemed to be interested in the blonde silly girls with no brain. All of them. And thinking back, I'm glad I didn't waste my time on them, because I know I would have deserved better.
ReplyDeleteSweatheart - Even though I don't know you well, I don't believe a word. I could imagine that if we asked 10 guys they wouldn't think of you as unattractive, maybe rather that you're not interested. Anyway, not to worry - most of us get a guy one day, and for a few days he might actually be prince charming :-). Sabine x
ReplyDeleteI get what you mean. I have been single and NOT dating for quite awhile now. Hahaha but still, we shouldnt let guys define us :)
ReplyDeleteI was always ALWAYS liked by the "losers" but then again..give it time :D
ReplyDeleteMaybe that's why I like geeks now? Oh how I love them ...and their nerdiness..